Mrs. M Engineer
- A Brief about yourself and how you describe your own Personality and Persona.
My life can be hard to pin down and fit into little boxes and I wouldn't have it any other way. I define myself as a global citizen, a world traveler who is as comfortable lounging by the pool in Florida, as I am exploring the wild jungles of Belize. I have lived as a food blogger and a classically trained French Chef. The life of a fitness enthusiast and BC Cup Bikini Competition winner is now known to me after losing over 100 pounds of weight! and I have found the love of my life in my husband whom I met in high school at the age of 14, and we together have built a multi-million dollar media and marketing company. I am a daughter who strives to find a balance between living a modern lifestyle and belonging to a traditional family. I'm a proud older sister who ferociously encourages my younger sister to challenge social norms. My days are filled with the tasks of a fitness trainer who tries to teach women how to put themselves first and learn to love their bodies. I wear and try on many different hats in my life, and I love all of them!
- Your Achievements that makes you feel high.
Can a person get high on their failures and disappointments? I like to think I am one of those people, because my failures have taught me important life lessons which have shaped who I am today. If I have to talk about my achievements though, I could say that building a successful business with my husband from the ground up gives me a high, or that taking a personal fitness journey where I have lost over 100 pounds is an achievement I am proud of. But the biggest one would have to be being able to inspire others - especially women, to put themselves first, and rediscover the joy of a healthy lifestyle. Being by their side while they take their own journeys towards being the happier and more fulfilled versions of themselves is definitely its own kind of high.
- Define the true beauty.
True beauty goes way beyond the physical for me - its what you find inside that will survive the test of time. My mom is one of the most beautiful people in the world to me, and she is 65 years old. My mom has lived with Polio since she was a young child, which restricted her exposure to the outside world. But instead of allowing herself to be limited by her sickness, she soaked in the world any way she could. She is an avid reader, and her passion to learn something new even at this point in her life cannot be described as anything else but beautiful! If you have a fire in your belly that keeps you up at night, if you are chasing a dream despite the sting of failure, if you are passionate about making yourself or the world better, if you are not afraid to make a fool of yourself, then that is what beauty is to me.
- What makes a complete, healthy and happy family for you?
I read a beautiful quote once about relationships from Patrica Fry that says Two halves do not make a whole when it comes to a healthy relationship: it takes two wholes." The foundation of a healthy family is the physical, emotional and mental health of individuals within the family. I believe that when a person is truly happy and joyful within themselves, that joy flows from their bodies, touching everyone around them. So I as a person, have to invest the time and energy in my own well-being. A healthier, happier me is the building block of a healthier, happier family and community.
- What is your favorite Idea of Holidaying?
I have been fortunate enough to have lived in some of the most beautiful places in the world, including Florida, which has some the best white-sand beaches in the world, and Vancouver, which consistently ranks in the top 3-4 most desirable cities to live in globally. My family and I have made multiple cross-country road trips in the US and Canada. In a nutshell, I have been a bit spoiled when it comes to holidays and vacations! Because of this, I tend to look for unique experiences, the road less traveled if you will, while on holiday. I also love delving into any local culinary adventures to help keep my chef skill sharp - goat head stew anyone? My last vacation was on a tiny island in Belize called Ambergris Caye. The entire island is about 26 miles long, and there are no cars on the island, people travel using golf carts! While the island offered some of the most unique experiences of my life, including swimming with Ray Sharks, what made it one of my favourite vacations was the downtime with my husband.
- Why you are participating in Mrs India Queen of Substance?
Through my food blog, (farmonplate.com) and my website (medhaengineer.com) where I offer my services as a fitness and lifestyle coach, I have connected with numerous women who were taught to put others before themselves and not to occupy too much space in the social structure. Taking the journey to being a mentally and physically fit individual starts with a simple realization - that you are worth it. I hope that participating in Mrs India Queen of Substance can give me a larger platform to continue inspiring women with unrealized potential.
- What bothers you most about what is happening in the country today?
I grew up in a traditional Hindu family and married my best friend from high school, a Christian guy which was against our tradition. I lived in India into my early 20s and I have lived in the western world since then. While each country and culture has its own unique challenges, I believe that India could do better in one aspect - celebrating a person’s individuality. Each person is unique and should be able to make their own choices about their life and future. Society should nourish those differences - be it religious beliefs, sexual orientation, choice of career or day-to- day lifestyle choices. I have experienced a higher level of acceptance to a person’s individuality in the western world compared to India and I would like to see my home country improve in this regard.
- The Quote or saying that encourages you?
“It is better to wear out than to rust out.” I like to think that my life is a reflection of this idiom. I have taken many risks and failed at a number of things. But each failure has taught me important life lessons and has introduced me to some my most dear friends as well as helped shape me into the woman I am today. There is never going to be a perfect time to launch your dreams and you could rust out waiting for that perfect moment. Alternatively, you can take a risk and try your best to reach a positive outcome. Though it might not go according to your plan, or you might break or wear out during the process, you will at least learn a lot on your journey.
- What is true “Sportsmanship” for you?
True sportsmanship to me is giving my best effort without worrying about the outcome and enjoying the process. I feel society has overemphasized the importance of winning at any cost when in truth what is important is the journey and the friends you make along the way. I believe that a true winner is someone who competed in the spirit of the game, and gave the best effort against any odds. Long after the trophies are rusted and the medals have lost their sheen, that’s the type of person that continues cherishing the memories of a healthy competition.
- If you were selected as a Charity Ambassador what Value addition would you like to make for our Society and how?
I am passionate about a range of issues including health and fitness, domestic abuse, and women’s empowerment. I am already trying to make a difference, small as it might be, through my blog and fitness training initiatives. With a much bigger platform like Mrs India, I could further these initiatives substantially. What I can assure you is once I believe in and commit to a cause, I will give it the best I have to offer. As an entrepreneur, I have learned that any initiative needs to substantiated with passionate execution, which is what I strive to do in all my ventures.